Tantra simply means having sex without an orgasm, and where's the fun in that? However, the truth behind this art could not be more different to the common perception of Tantra. By using its inherent skills, you could find that your orgasm does indeed scale new heights of dizzy pleasure, and who doesn't want that?!
Where to start?
In this digital age it's easy to find instructions for most things on the internet, but Tantra should not be one of them. There are all sorts of A-Z guides for curious lovers eager to try new things and how to learn how to do Tantra, but the absolute best way to get a grip on this (pun unintended!) is by visiting an expert – someone for whom this is their day to day trade. There are many massage parlours which offer this service, but for the best experience, choose an expert. Someone who specialises solely in Tantra.
What can I expect when I get there?
A true Tantra expert will have a room dedicated to the practice. It's important to soak up a rich atmosphere of candles, joss sticks, whale music and muted light from a plethora of table lamps to relax the soul before you even start. Your gay massager will be very used to putting clients at ease and enjoying themselves right from the start. You will disrobe and be given a towel for modesty purposes if you feel that you need this. Rather weirdly and due to Tantra's Hindu roots, from hereon in your penis will be known as Lingham, which means ‘wand of light'; rather unique, don't you think?
Once you are on the couch, your gay Tantra massager will begin by slowly working down the muscles in your body, head to toe to ensure full relaxation. It's important to remember that your brain is the key to creating Tantric pleasure, so concentrate on emptying your mind to achieve this. You will probably then be asked to lie on your back, legs apart so your entire Lingam area is open to your massager. Penetration does not take place during Tantric massage, but that doesn't mean that you won't experience intense pleasure.
The massage itself is a very slow and sensual one. Because your massager will have access to your whole Lingam area, he can stimulate your Lingam, perineum and bottom. But slowly and with great ease. Your penis will be touched gently and specific attention will be directed at the head of your Lingam.
What happens if I can't get an erection?
This is a fear that most men have, but in Tantra it doesn't matter. Pleasure is about more than the Lingam, so if it goes a little soft, that's fine. It's doubtless bound to pick up as the massage goes on!
What happens if I ejaculate?
A professional Tantric massager won't let that happen. Though they will be gently touching and stimulating the whole area and especially the head of the Lingam, they will back off for a bit if orgasm seems imminent.
Tantra is all about recognising your body's desires and learning how to satiate yourself in a different way to normal, therefore bringing you heightened orgasms.